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Saturday, 30 July 2011

Silver Spring Hijab Galore- Review

Assalaamu alaikum!

Today I'll be doing a hijab company review forrrrr Silver Spring Hijab Galore =D I received some of their stuff yesterday, most of the things from SSHG I will be giving away as part of the iHijabi 1000fans giveaway. Soooo here are some pictures =D apologies for the hijab not matching the outfit my sister couldn't be bothered to get changed and we had to rush because we had guests coming over (yes cooking, cleaning, making tea and all the rest of it)

My studio AKA my bedroom lol

Right so first thing you see in the pictures is a black hijab with little diamontes that I am wearing. This hijab is your everyday black hijab with a little bit of bling, I'm a sucker for all things black so I really liked this hijab. It is a sheer hijab so just for demo pruposes I wore it with another scarf underneath, you wont need to but you will need to wear an underscarf and when you wrap it round it shouldn't be see through.

Next is the green & blue scarf my sister is wearing, this is a pashmina type scarf and is very easy to work with & style, it creates nice folds and has a few different colour stitches at the bottom (don't know if you can see), It's a nice scarf in perfect cool summer colours.

And then as you see in picture 2 is the blue crystal headband. This is the headband that you'd wear in your hair as well, it's nice but not something I would wear, the crystals make the hijab stick up on the sides a bit to, so not really for me unfortunately.

Lastly in this section is the blue flower hijab pin with mini chain. I think this is realllly cute and I absolutely love the little flowers. Very pretty!

Ok now on to the orange hijab, this hijab is very stringy (sorry can't find the word =S) you will have to wear it with another hijab as I think it's quite see through and has gaps in the hijab. The colour is very nice and I've paired it with a white pashmina to do a bandanna earring style for a slightly Spanish look (=

And then there is a white tube underscarf with diamontes and embroidery. I don't wear tube underscarves or underscarves with patterns but this underscarf is very good quality so if you need one of these do check out SSHG.

Moving on to the red hijab. This hijab is a chiffon/poly mix hijab. It's very pretty hijab with hints of orange & white. At the bottom has sparkly silver threads on it so it'd be super for parties or 3id (=

The headband is a metal headband with 3 large crystals on it. Great to jazz up any hijab for parties.

And finally in this section is a little pretty star hijab pin with a mini chain, again really pretty and a cute little accessory for any plain hijab.

And last but not least these absolutely amazing hijabi keyrings, an every hijabi must have! They are sooo cute I had to get one for myself. Yes, I know I have one key and a million key rings (they're all sentimental) I can't get rid of sentimental things (I have cards & gift bags and boxes etc from years and years ago =S) But anyway these hijabi key rings are amazing and I'm thinking of getting some in bulk for UK customers, what do you guys think?

To visit the Silver spring hijab galore facebook page click here
To visit their website & make a purchase click here

I hope you enjoy shopping with SSHG the customer service is brilliant because it's run by our very own iHijabi admin *Sunnie! =D

Among the other things from the other companies...

Winner one will get:
-The blue/green hijab
-Blue crystal headband
-White tube underscarf
-Star mini chain hijab pin

Winner two will get:
-Red hijab
-Metal crystal headband
-Green Hijabi keyring

Winner three will get:
- Black sheyla
-Orange/cream string hijab
-Orange Hijabi keyring

Check out the details to enter the giveaway by clicking on the pink poster on the left =D Deadline is in exactly 1 week so get those entries in!!

Ramadhaan Kareem Wassalaam!

Wednesday, 27 July 2011

Hijab Obsessions- Colourful Jersey Hijabs

Assalaamu alaikum,

Today I went to the post office to pick up my Hijab Obsessions package which I am delighted with!! I got 2 jersey hijabs one in Royal Blue & one in Aubergine Purple. They're both absolutely amazing jersey fabric, very soft & very lightweight. My fav has to be the purple (just loving that colour at the moment =D), the blue is a bit brighter than I'd usually go for but bright primary colours are very in this season so I guess I'll try it out inshaAllah.

Here are some pics =D sorry about the editing, need to fix my photoshop, so I had to make do with paint =S

Royal Blue

Aubergine Purple

Here is a picture of the giveaway goodies courtesy of Hijab Obsessions (=

-Charcoal Jersey Hijab
-Silky pink Hijab
-Blue & Pink Stripey thin Hijab

So what do you think of these scarves?

Tuesday, 26 July 2011

Meet the iHijabi Team

Assalaamu alaikum all!

I recruited admins for the iHijabi facebook fan page and thought it'd be a good idea to get all the admins to fill out a questionnaire each so that you can get to know each person individually (=



Can't say, I like being mysterious B-)


London, UK

- What do you do? (i.e if you're a student what do you study?)-

Well.....I'm currently at uni (will be in my third & final year in Sept) studying Diagnostic radiography and no it has nothing to do with radio's it's things like taking x-rays and at the moment observing MRI, CT, Nuclear med and smiling at patients =D

I also paint & do arabic calligraphy on canvases & other stuff during my spare time as well as keeping my blog & updating you all on facebook (=

- What are your interests and hobbies?

I always used to find this one hard to answer on personal statements & CV's, I once got asked this at an interview and said 'reading' so they said what's the last book you read? and I was stuck =S lol

My hobbies & interests are:

-Designing jilbab's
-Learning about cultures & religions (Esp Islam)
-Eating =D
-I love writing (hence the blog)
-Shopping (how can I forget)
-Meeting new people & learning new things

- Who is your favourite Sahaba & why?

Hmmm how do you chose? I love Khadija RA for her character, I love how she was a successful business woman in mans world. I love Summayah RA for her courage and bravery. I love Umar RA for his fighting spirit and how he used to get jealous of Abu Bakr RA because he was pious which leads me onto Abu Bakr RA, how can one compare to such a man, our beloved prophet (pbuh)'s best friend. I love Faatimah RA for how much she loved her father and how much of an brilliant daughter she was, I wish I could be a fraction of how she was. I love Aisha RA & her fiestyness, I love how she taught the ummah so much. I love all the sahaba's for their amazingness in their own unique way and wish to be amongst them in Jannah one day iA (= May Allah be pleased with them all!

- Who is your biggest inspiration & why?

My biggest inspiration =S after the prophet pbuh I'd have to say my nani. She is the most amazing person in the entire world and I love her to bits. She has been through so much in her life and I've not once heard her complain to anyone or to Allah. She is an inspiration to me. Such a strong woman mashaAllah! May Allah forgive her her sins and grant her Janant-ul-Firdous

- What's your favourite food?

Chicken! I love chicken ask my family lol and chocolate, not together obviously xD

-What are your biggest achievements?

Ahhh why did I come up with these questions? =SErm biggest achievement was passing my driving test during the august heat & ramadhan last year, my mum & dad & uncle & entire family actually were really happy (=

- What do you feel is one of your weaknesses?

My weakness is getting worked up over things too easily, I think it's just because I'm very passionate =S I dunno maybe I'm making excuses. I do get upset over things really quickly, sometimes I think I'm too emotional.

- What are your favourite books? (they don't all have to be Islamic)

-The Sealed Nectar (still only 3/4 of the way through it, been reading it for like 3 years now) but its a very good book.
- From my sisters lips by Naima Roberts, learnt a lot from that book, it's interesting & informative too.

-Does my head look big in this (read it during school years a go)

-I read all the harry potter books, they're all in pristine condition in my cupboard, last three are 1st edition so I'm hoping to make some money out of them in the future xD

Don't get much time to read these days, heads either in the Quran or in Radiography books, don't have time for reading much else.

- What do you love about Islam/ Whats the best thing about being a Muslimah?

EVERYTHING Alhamdulillah!! The sisterhood, the love & respect you get from fellow Muslims who don't even know you. Islam is just perfect, i don't know what I'd do without it! So grateful Allah has guided me.

- What are your favourite quotes?

'Striving for Jannah inshaAllah'

'An eye for an eye will only leave the whole world blind'- Ghandi

I can't think if anymore I like right now =S

- What 3 words describe you?-

Creative, Scary, Friendly (that's kinda contradictory isnt it? oh well)

- What is your iHijabi admin name?


simples  =D I am the main iHijabi admin which is why I'm keeping it as just iHijabi (= 

Your message to the iHijabi readers/likers/fans...

 =D My  message is I love you all for the sake of Allah. Lets live, love & learn together and all strive for that place in Jannah!



- Shannon


- Louisiana USA

- What do you do? (i.e if you're a student what do you study?)

- I am an Admissions Counselor for a university, and am currentky completing a degree in Psychology as well!

- What are your interests and hobbies?

- Travel, Entertaining, Cooking and Laughter Yoga

- Who is your favourite Sahaba & why?

- Khadija (ra).  As the first convert, she embodied everything I strive for in my own life.  She was a woman of intense faith, a faithful companion and incredible wife to our beloved Prophet (pbuh), successful in her business ventures and respected by all who knew her.  She was the first person to understand and accept the gift that Allah had bestowed upon the Messenger (pbuh).  I hope to always be that attuned and obedient to the will of Allah, inshAllah.

- Who is your biggest inspiration & why?

Other than our Prophet (pbuh) of course and his wife Khadijah (ra) for the reasons stated above, I would have to say it's a toss up between my Mother and my youngest Brother.  Both have gone through some extreme trials in their lives (although my Mothers have ended in this life, may Allah give her mercy) and have managed to conquer all seemingly insurmountable obstacles with strength and poise that never ceases to amaze me.

- What's your favourite food?


- What are your biggest achievements?

I purchased my first home last year alhamdulillah, without having a nervous breakdown!

- What do you feel is one of your weaknesses? I am a huge procrastinator!!  Your duas that I can overcome this are very appreciated!!

- What are your favourite books? (they don't all have to be Islamic)

Islam our choice, The Book Thief, Believing as Ourselves, The Butterfly Mosque.

- What do you love about Islam/ Whats the best thing about being a Muslimah? 

On being a Muslimah - The fact that after all these years, I finally feel like I am worshiping Allah the way he has always wanted me to do so.
On Islam - that there is never a question that Islam has not answered for me.

- What are your favourite quotes?

“Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother.” Khalil Gibran

"And if the music stops

...There's only the sound of the rain

All the hope and glory,

All the sacrifice in vain

And if love remains

Though everything is lost

We will pay the price,

But we will not count the cost"
-Rush (Bravado)

- What 3 words describe you?

Outgoing, Caretaker, Teacher

- iHijabi admin name


- Your message to iHijabi readers...

Hi Readers!!  I'm so fortunate to be part of this wonderful group of inspired ladies!  I hope that I can learn a lot from you all and the experiences we share here, and help make your days a little more fun too, inshAllah.  May Allah bless and protect you all!!

iConvert will be posting articles, status updates & interesting info on the facebook page at least once a day after 11pm UK time iA.




- What do you do? (i.e if you're a student what do you study?)-

I am Currently Working as a Administrator/Caseworker.. For a Government Company.. Insh'Allah I am going to Study Dental Nursing and continue on to Adult Nursing Insh'Allah.

- What are your interests and hobbies?

I am always interested in learning new things!! I love doing research about different things ie, different religions, Politics etc.. I love cooking different kinds of food and I love Gardening.

- Who is your favourite Sahaba & why?

To be honest!, I don't have a favourite Sahaba.. I like them all equally :)

- Who is your biggest inspiration & why?

That would be my Loving Beautiful Mother.. Alhumdlilah I am blessed with a Strong, Loving and Caring mother Mash'Allah.. I would love to be just like her she's Perfect! She is extremely caring and loving who has a very big heart! She forgive and forgets... She is very strong, not only been a mother to me and my siblings but has also been a Father too us and has brought us up very well! I learn a lot from her Mash'Allah.

- What's your favourite food?

I'm not a fussy person, I'll eat anything.. Not much of a Meat and chicken fan, but I love Junk food I.e Chips, Pizza etc.  I love Red Kidney Beans curry, I like mixed Vegatables and I love rice :) and every dish of mine should have Potatoes love them.

-What are your biggest achievements?

This may not be a big achievement to anyone but to me it was a huge achievement.. I was once walking outside the city centre where there was a group of male teenagers walking ahead of me, ahead of them was a Muslim OAP, a grandfather who was walking very slow.  To look so cool and show off to their mates, one of the teenagers tripped the grandad who fell onto the ground, I was extremely shocked to see someone doing something like that. I ran to the grandad to see if he was ok, lucky he was hurt a little on his knee, he was out of breath and he was struggling to get up but thank god! There was a lampost near that he could hold on to and I held him the other side to pick him up. I walked him to a nearby bench and I asked again if he's ok, he replied and she. I'm ok my knees hurting and so is my hand I asked him if he wanted some water that I had in my back untouched, he replied and said if I could it would be great. I asked him if he was ok to go home etc. As I got up to go he put his hands on my head and he gave me soo many blessing Alhumdlilah! I was sooo happy to gain these blessing, it felt I had achieved a lot.

- What do you feel is one of your weaknesses?

My weakness is losing my father (May Allah SWT grant him a place in Jannah Ameen ) being there when I lost him... It was really hard, remembering every single moment.. It gets me really upset! That's my weakness.

- What are your favourite books? (they don't all have to be Islamic)

I have not read many books but I liked reading, Life about Prophet Muhammed PBUH, Love& its Limits with Taqwaah and friendship with Allah by Shaykh Muhammed Saleem Dharat, I also like the Dresscode for Muslimahs.

- What do you love about Islam/ Whats the best thing about being a Muslimah?

I love Everything about Islam! What isn't there to love? Its The True religion, its peaceful its perfect! And unique! Words can't explain! And being a muslimah is like being a queen! Being soo special, I feel protected its beautiful and again.. Its unique.

- What are your favourite quotes?

My favourite Quotes are :

'Islam is my Deen, Jannah is my Dream' :)

'You think I'm hot? So is Hell fire, Lower your Gaze'

'Pack your good Deeds and be ready to Face Allah SWT'

- What 3 words describe you?-

Loving, Caring and helpful :)

- What would your iHijabi admin name be?-

Hmmm I'd keep it as my name Temporary, and I'd ask the group what they would like to name me? I have family and friends calling me by different names, I'd choose one from there which describes me and which I like :)
ITS BEEN CHOSEN!!!!! :D its iMuslimah(A :D

iMuslimah(A will be posting hadith of the day, status updates and other cool stuff at least once a day from 7am-11am inshaAllah


-Name : 

Ans: Sana Sadiq

-Location : 

Ans: Originally From Karachi/Pakistan, Born/Raised/Lives in Ajman/UAE

- What do you do? (i.e if you're a student what do you study?) : 

Ans: Oh!! So well question of past times :D Well!!Well!!Well!! I have completed my studies Alhumdolilah now doing job as well as running my online hijab store named Silver Spring Hijab Galore =)

- What are your interests and hobbies? 

Ans : Here comes question of my interest =D Well the list goes on,
Cooking/Baking (TOP MOST)
Hangout with friends/Hoteling
Long walk
Yoga and Meditation

- Who is your favourite Sahaba & why?

Ans: Its really hard to define whos my favorite Sahab and why because All of them MASHALLAH so pious and brave and unique in their own way .. (PEACE BE UPON THEM)

- Who is your biggest inspiration & why?

Ans: Biggest inspiration, Umm thats what something I feel quite confusing b/c at time I have got many persons who admired and from them I had gotten my inspirations. 1st of all Hazrat Muhammad (P.B.U.H) wants to be a muslim like who lives for others not for himself, Cooking inspiration from My Mum. Shes a greatest cook and have got world's best taste in her hands =) ♥ xx

- What's your favourite food?

Ans : Chiness,Thai,Pasta,Continental,Arabic,Pakistani Spicy food along with bbq's,Pizza,Fries,Icey's,Chips,Chocolates ♥ x My ultimate obsession =D

- What are your biggest achievements?

Ans : Uptill now I have not got any thing as big as I can call that MY BIGGEST ACHIEVEMENT, But in sha Allah when i'll get one I'll share with my all beautiful IHijabi sisters for sure ♥ ♥ xxxx

- What do you feel is one of your weaknesses?

Ans : Ummm... I guess my Family and My Friends (A close ones) I cant afford to loose them at any cost .

- What are your favourite books? (they don't all have to be Islamic)

Ans : Harry Potter Series, Twilight Series, Tess By Thomas Hardy, Sydney Sheldon's novels , too many to name =) x

- What do you love about Islam/ Whats the best thing about being a Muslimah?

Ans : The Golden Rule is implicitly expressed in some verses of Qur'an, but is explicitly declared in the sayings of Hazrat Muhammad
(P.B.U.H). as a muslim, the religion itself has simplified my life. the 5 pillars and what is expected from me from Allah is so basic and so easy. i dont worry myself about outside life. satan forever tempts and pulls us and gives us doubts and fears, but its easier to turn away. the fard prayers make one remember throughout the day what one's life is about. the Qur'an is so specific about what is right, what is wrong and what you have to do just to make it through life, alh.the fact that worshipping Allah is constant is really wonderful for me, i have somewhere to turn and i love the masjid also. so so very much. if i could, i would spend most of my time there.

- What are your favourite quotes?

Ans : As we venture in our different life journeys, we are being inspired by how life can be very beautiful despite of the trials it may bring. And due to these overwhelming feelings we have, many of us are being encouraged to compose their own quotes they might share to everyone as to express how they feel. We have known composers recorded over history and time such as Plato, Shakespeare, Anonymous, Roosevelt and many more. Below are some quotes I have collected from close friends whom were inspired by their own paths.

What makes life beautiful is because no matter how countless the ups and downs are, still we can manage to smile at the end of the day.
-Donna Tarampi-

- What 3 words describe you?

Ans : Emotional, Loving, Extrovert

- What would your iHijabi admin name be (something fun that describes you/your personality)

Ans : Sunnie Gummie =D

- Your message to the iHijabi readers...

I am totally undecided on how I am going to live my life. But a thing is for sure: it is so full of mysteries and it is God's greatest gift to me. We must live it well, live it beautifully, as God wants us to be.Life is certainly beautiful because of the people who surrounds us, especially those who never fails to give us their never ending love and support; even in this so complicated world they still accepts us for who and what we are.

Love you All ♥ ♥ x

Sunnie will be posting recipes on the facebook fan page which I will then post on the blog for future reference (=

Hope you like the new team and inshaAllah there are exciting times ahead. Salaam xxx

Calligraphy on suitcase

Today I went shopping and found some really cool things to experiment with, one of which was a mini suitcase which I bought to paint and do calligraphy on =D came out pretty good I think, what do you think?

Calligraphy inspired by Samee-al-Panda ;o)

I suppose you can use it as a mini suitcase to carry small things in or you could just use it as I have to store my jewellery inside. I think these would be super to have for yourself or to give as a gift on occasions like Eid (can you imagine little pink ones with flower & bows for little princesses?). I did only buy one to experiment with but I'm thinking of getting more iA.

I will be selling these at £9.00 (exc p&p)....

Currently I am taing pre-orders for Eid so if you'd like to buy one email me at ihijabi@gmail.com and I'll send you a paypal invoice inshaAllah, they should also be available to purchase on www.islamfactory.com/store in the near future as well.

Hope you like them iA

(= xxx

Sunday, 24 July 2011

Recipe #3- Mango Shango Shake

First of all..I wanna thank ALLAH for providing such yummy fruits for us ...SubhanALLAH..
thank you Allah....for everything..Alhumdullilah :)

And 2nd thank you summer for the mangos :)



ok someone once told me that..the famous poet ghalib said.."Ghadday aam nahi khate"..lol sorry I don't know how authentic that is? lol In English..donkeys don't eat mangoes..lol ..sorry..I didn't say that..Ghalib did..that's wat i heard :) lol

  • 1 mango
  • 1 scoop of mango Ice cream
  • 10 ice cubes
  • some milk
  • Sugar (optional - or to taste)
  • bits of mango (for garnishing)

Blend all...and have ur Yummmango shango shake :)

You can add lot's of milk for a thin shake or less milk for a nice thick luscious mango shake :)

Enjoy :)

Recipe #2- Chicken Bread

One of my Most fvt tea time snack.. Chicken Bread ♥ ♥

  • Flour 4 cups
  • Instant yeast 1 tbsp
  • Powdered milk 2 tbsp
  • Salt 1 tsp
  • Oil 4 tbsp
  • Egg 1 (plus 1 for glazing)
  • Castor sugar 1 tsp

In a bowl mix together 4 cups flour, 1 tsp salt, 1 tsp castor sugar, 2 tbsp milk powder, 1 tbsp yeast, 4 tbsp oil and 1 egg, knead to a medium soft dough with slightly warm water, leave to rise for 1 hour.

Ingredients for chicken filling:

  • Chicken boiled and shredded 1 ½ to 2 cups
  • Onion chopped finely 1 medium or 2 small
  • Salt 1 tsp
  • Black pepper 1 tsp
  • Coriander leaves 2 tbsp
  • Green chilies chopped 4
  • Garam Masala Powder 1 tsp
  • Flour 2 tbsp
  • Butter 2 tbsp
  • Milk 1 cup
  • Sesame seeds as required 

Heat 2 tbsp butter fry onion till soft then add 2 tbsp flour with 1 tsp salt, 1 tsp black pepper, 1 tsp garam masala....add the milk, cook till thick, mix in the shredded chicken add chopped green chilies and coriander leaves, remove and cool completely. Now divide the dough into two or three parts depending on what size loaves of chicken bread you want. Roll the dough to a rectangular shape, snip the sides with scissors or a knife, put filling in the centre and fold each side so they overlap each other (like a braid) the filling will show slightly but that's ok, brush top with beaten egg, sprinkle sesame seeds and bake on 200 degree C for 25 minutes or so.

Right after taking out of the oven apply butter well on whole bread and let it rest covered with a cloth for 2-3 min to soften the bread completely.


Saturday, 23 July 2011

Recipe #1- Chocolate Fudge Cake

These recipe's will be by Sister Sana our newest iHijabi team member. Sister Sana is very talented at cooking and has provided us with her special recipes....p.s look out for Ramadhan Suhoor & Iftaar recipes aswell!

* 400g plain flour
* 250g golden caster sugar
* 100g light muscovado sugar
* 50g best quality cocoa powder
* 2 tsp. baking powder
* 1 tsp. bicarbonate of soda
* ½ tsp. salt
* 3 eggs
* 142ml/small tub sour cream
* 1 tbsp. vanilla extract
* 175g unsalted butter, melted and cooled
* 125ml corn oil
* 300ml chilled water

For Fudge Icing

* 175g dark chocolate, minimum 70% cocoa solids
* 250g unsalted butter, softened
* 275g icing sugar, sifted
* 1 tbsp. vanilla extract


* Preheat the oven to 180C/350F/gas mark 4. Butter and line the bottom of two 20cm sandwich tins.

* In a large bowl, mix together the flour, sugars, cocoa, baking powder, bicarbonate and salt.

* In another bowl or wide-necked measuring jug whisk together the eggs, sour cream and vanilla until blended.

* Using a freestanding or handheld electric mixer, beat together the melted butter and corn oil until just blended (you’ll need another large bowl for this if using the hand whisk; the freestanding mixer comes with its own bowl), then beat in the water.

* Add the dry ingredients all at once and mix together on a slow speed. Add the egg mixture, and mix again until everything is blended and then pour into the prepared tins. And actually, you could easily do this manually;

* Bake the cakes for 50-55 minutes, or until a cake-tester comes out clean. Cool the cakes in their tins on a wire rack for 15 minutes, and then turn the cakes out onto the rack to cool completely.

* To make the icing, melt the chocolate in the microwave – 2-3 minutes on medium should do it – or in a bowl sitting over a pan of simmering water, and let cool slightly.

* In another bowl, beat the butter until it’s soft and creamy and then add the sieved icing sugar and beat again until everything’s light and fluffy. Then gently add the vanilla and chocolate and mix together until everything is glossy and smooth.

* Sandwich the middle of the cake with about a quarter of the icing, and then ice the top and sides, too, spreading and smoothing with a rubber spatula.

Its easiest =)) xx njoy and do let us know how it tastes =)) xx


It all started with an apple

One of our pious predecessors, Thabit Bin Nu’man, was hungry and tired as he was passing through a garden that bordered a river. He was so hungry that he could hear his stomach growling, and so his eyes became fixed on the fruits he saw on the various trees of the garden. In a fit of desperation, he forgot himself and extended his hand to an apple that was within reach. He ate half of it and then drank water from the river. But then he became overcome with guilt, despite the fact that he had only eaten because of dire need.

He said to himself, “Woe unto me! How can I eat someone else’s fruits without his permission? I make it binding upon myself not to leave this place until I find the owner of this garden and ask him to forgive me for having eaten one of his apples.“

After a brief search, he found the owner’s house. He knocked on the door and the owner of the garden came out and asked him what he wanted.

Thabit Bin Nu’man said, “I entered your garden that borders the river, and I took this apple and ate half of it. Then I remembered it does not belong to me, and so I ask you now to excuse me for having eaten it and to forgive me for my mistake.“

The man said, “On one condition only I will forgive you for your mistake.“

Thabit Bin Nu’man asked, “And what is that condition?“

He said, “That you marry my daughter.“

Thabit Bin Nu’man said, “I will marry her.“

The man said, “But heed you this; indeed my daughter is blind, she does not see; mute, she does not speak;deaf, she does not hear.“

Thabit Bin Nu’man began to ponder over his situation; a difficult predicament indeed did he find himself in now; what should he do? Not get out of it, thought Thabit, for he realised that to be tested by such a woman, to take care of her, and to serve her, are all better than to eat from the foul matter of the Hellfire as a reward for the apple that he ate. And after all, the days of this world are limited.

And so he accepted the condition to mary the girl, seeking his reward from Allaah, Lord of all that exists. He was nonetheless somewhat anxious in the days prior to the marriage.

He thought, “How can I have sexual relations with a woman who neither speaks nor sees nor hears?“

So miserable did he become that he almost wished for the earth to swallow him up before the appointed date.

Yet despite such apprehensions, he placed his complete trust upon Allaah and he said, “There is neither might nor power except with Allaah. Indeed to Allaah do we belong and indeed to Him shall we al return.“

On the day of the marriage he saw her for the first time. She stood up before him and said, “Peace, mercy and blessings of Allaah be upon you.“

When he saw her grace and beauty, he was reminded of what he would see when he would imagine the fair maidens of paradise (i.e., the gorgeous hoor al-ayn). After a brief pause he said, “What is this? She indeed speaks, hears and sees.” He then told her what her father said earlier.

She said, “My father has spoken the truth. He said I was mute because I do not speak any forbidden word, and I have never spoken to any man who is not lawful to me (i.e., she has never spoken to any ghair mahrams)! And I am indeed deaf in the sense that I have never sat in a gathering in which there is backbiting, slander, or false and vain speech! And I am indeed blind, in the sense that I have never looked upon a man who is not permissible for me!“


Noble reader, reflect on and learn a lesson from this story!

My brothers in Islaam, see how much he feared Allaah, and how much he had his trust in Allaah, and where this got him!

My sisters in Islaam, see how this woman kept herself chaste, pious, in her hijaab, so much so, she was considered mute (not speaking to any man), deaf (avoiding places of backbiting) and blind (not seeing any man). Allaahu Akbar, isn’t it these qualities that pious men love to see in their wives? Nay; aren’t these qualities all men (Muslim and non-Muslims) wish to see in their wives? Isn’t it these qualities that give men the crave and yearn to meet their hoor al-ayn in jannah?

Sunday, 17 July 2011

What to look for in a husband & Salaat-ul-Istikhaarah

 The other day I uploaded a post titled 'I want a Sheikh!' and someone requested a post on what you should look for in a husband and where do you draw the line in your list of wants. Firstly most people should want a practicing Allah fearing man and that is because inshaAllah if he fears Allah he will treat you well this is one of the first things you should look at before anything else. There's no comprimising with this one!
However, religion it seems, is not always foremost in the minds of many people. In fact, it's probably the last factor on too many Muslims' list.

According to Tasneem Qadeer, one of the seven volunteers who runs the Islamic Society of North America's matrimonial service, being a doctor or a lawyer is much more important to many Muslim women than piety.

And the men are not any better. Many matrimonial advertisements in Islamic publications for instance, demonstrate a key demand for a wife who is “fair, slim and beautiful”.

“If we want to have healthy Muslim families then Deen has to be first,” says Aneesah Nadir, president of the Islamic Social Services Association of the United States and Canada.

A lot of us want a husband to have all the characteristics that were pointed out in the last post and personally my answer to 'where do I draw the line?' is don't just think about what he is like now but think about if he doesn't have some of the qualities already will he be able to develope them after marriage? Think about it in terms of money, he may just have enough to live on right now and has a job lower down in his line of work but that may be because he just recently graduated, who knows by the will of Allah he may work his way up in that career and have enough money not just to live on but to spend in the way of charity...in short what I mean is think long term. Wealth will come and go and that is controlled by Allah so don't be hung up on his job not being good enough, his house not being big enough etc.

Also think in terms of how praciticing he is, to be honest if you yourself are not very parcticing then give up on that dream of finding a really religious husband because chances are he's looking for someone just as practicing as himself , be logical and think about things realistically. If you do want someone religious start to think about how you can change yourself to reach his standards. The minimum requirements will be different for every person because each individual is at a different level of imaan. I wouldn't reccomend you go for someone less paracticing than you (even if he says he can change) because you want someone that you can learn & practice Islam with, Someone who will draw you closer to Allah and not further away from Him. Marriage is a religious commitment so choose someone that will help you achieve your goal of pleasing Allah & getting to Jannah.

Things like taqwa, understanding, good manners, (anger management), good communication and sincerity are things that you should not comprimise on, things such as wealth, bad habits and things that you don't like in general you can re-think and see if you can look past them or if you think he can change or improve them over time. Always look at yourself and see what you are like in terms of what you want in a husband. Don't dream of a perfect guy because no one is perfect but look for someone who is willing to change (not for you, but for themself and for Allah) Remember marriage is half your deen so choose carefully! Below is an article on what things we are supposed to look for in a husband acording to Quran & Sunnah as well as information on Salaat-ul-Istikhaarah, a prayer made asking for Allah's guidance on big decisions in life (such as choosing a spouse or deciding if the one you are looking at is right for you)
What to look for in a husband

Religious commitment. This is the most important thing to look for in the man you want to marry. The husband should be a Muslim who adheres to all the laws and teachings of Islam in his daily life. The woman’s guardian (wali) should strive to check out this matter and not rely only on outward appearances. One of the most important things to ask about is the man’s prayer (salaah); the one who neglects the rights of Allaah is more likely to neglect the rights of others. The true believer does not oppress or mistreat his wife; if he loves her, he honours her, and if he does not love her, he does not mistreat or humiliate her. It is very rare to find this attitude among those who are not sincere Muslims.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meanings):

“and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you” [al-Baqarah 2:221]

“Verily, the most honourable of you with Allaah is that (believer) who has At-Taqwaa [i.e. he is one of the Muttaqoon (the pious)]” [al-Hujuraat 49:13]

“Good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for good women)” [al-Noor 24:26] 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1084).

As well as being religiously committed, it is preferable that he should come from a good family and a known lineage. If two men come to propose marriage to one woman, and they are equal in terms of religious commitment, then preference should be given to the one who comes from a good family that is known for its adherence to the commands of Allaah, so long as the other person is not better than him in terms of religious commitment – because the righteousness of the husband’s close relatives could be passed on to his children and his good origins and lineage may make him refrain from many foolish and cheap actions. The righteousness of the father and grandfather are beneficial to the children and grandchildren. 

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And as for the wall, it belonged to two orphan boys in the town; and there was under it a treasure belonging to them; and their father was a righteous man, and your Lord intended that they should attain their age of full strength and take out their treasure as a mercy from your Lord” [al-Kahf 18:82].

See how Allaah protected their father’s wealth for the two boys after the father died, as an honour to him because of his righteousness and taqwaa. By the same token, if the husband comes from a righteous family and his parents are good, Allaah will make things easy for him and protect him as an honour to his parents.

It is good if he has sufficient wealth to keep him and his family from having to ask people for anything, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to Faatimah bint Qays (may Allaah be pleased with her), when she came to consult him about three men who had proposed marriage to her, “As for Mu’aawiyah, he is a poor man who has no wealth…” (Narrated by Muslim, 1480). 

It is not essential that he should be a businessman or rich, it is sufficient for him to have an income that will keep him and his family from having to ask people for anything. If there is a choice between a man who is religiously committed and a man who is wealthy, then the religious man should be given preference over the wealthy man.

It is preferable that he should be kind and gentle towards women, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to Faatimah bint Qays, in the hadeeth quoted above, “As for Abu Jaham, his stick never leaves his shoulder”, referring to the fact that he used to beat women a lot.

The Prophet (sas) commanded them to facilitate their marriage when they are satisfied with two issues:  the faith of the suitor and his character.
Character is of extreme importance in Islam and goes hand in hand with faith and piety.  The Prophet (sas) has even described it as the purpose of his mission to mankind as we can see from the following hadith:
"Innama bu'ithtu li utammima saliha al-akhlaaqi."
"I have only been sent to complete good character."  Al-Hakim and others (sahih)

"Anaa za'eemun bibaitin fiy a'laa al-jannati liman hassana khuluqahu."
"I am a guarantor of a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character good."  Abu Daud and it is hassan.

"Al-Birru husnu al-khuluqi."
"Righteousness is good character."  Muslim

"Akmalu al-mu'mineen imaanan ahsanuhum khuluqan."
"The believers with the most complete iman are those with the best character."  Abu Daud and it is sahih.
It is good if he is sound of body and healthy, free of faults, sickness, etc., and not disabled or sterile.

It is preferable that he should have knowledge of the Qur’aan and Sunnah; if you find someone like this it is good, otherwise you should realize that this is something rare.

It is permissible for the woman to look at the man who comes to propose marriage, and for him to look at her (You gotta be satisfied with the way he looks, I mean you're going to be spending the rest of your life with this man, is this the face you want to see every morning?). This should be in the presence of her mahram, and it is not permitted to look more than is necessary, or for him to see her alone, or for her to go out with him on her own, or to meet repeatedly for no reason.

This characteristic has a certain role to play since one of the purposes of marriage is to keep both spouses from sins.  The best way to do this is to have a strong attraction between the spouses.  Although this is something which surely grows over time, initial impressions can in come cases become an obstacle to a successful marriage.   The Prophet (sas) separated Qais ibn Shamaas from his wife in the famous case of Khul'a and her stated reason was that he was exceedingly displeasing to her.  There are many hadith which urge the prospective spouse to get a look at the other before undertaking the marriage.  Once a companion told him (sas) that he was going to get married.  The Prophet (sas) asked if he had seen her.  When the man said no, he (sas) said:
"Idh-hab fandhur ilaihaa fa innahu ahraa an yu'dama bainakum."
"Go and look at her for it is more likely to engender love between the two of you."  Ahmad and others and it is sahih.

Umar ibn Al-Khattab once said:  "Do not force your young girls to marry an ugly man, for they also love what you love."  Ibn Abideen (a famous faqeeh from last century) said:  "The woman should choose a man who is religious, of good character, generous and of ample wealth.  She should not marry an evildoer.  A person should not marry his young daughter to an old man and an ugly man but he should marry her to one similar."
Beauty has its role, but remember that it is way down on the priority list under piety, character and deen.  When a person puts beauty above all else, the results can be disastrous.  This is one of the big reasons that young people seeking to get married must be helped by more mature family members in making their choice.
According to Islam, the woman’s wali (guardian) should check on the man who proposes marriage to the woman who is under his guardianship; he should ask those whom he trusts among those who mix with him and who know him, about his commitment to Islam and his trustworthiness. He should ask them for an honest opinion and sincere, sound advice.

Before and during all of this, you must turn towards Allaah and pray to Him to make it easy for you and help you to make a good choice and to grant you wisdom. Then after all these efforts, when you have decided on a particular person, you should pray Istikhaarah, asking Allaah for that which is good. For more details on Salaat al-Istikhaarah, please see below. Then after you have done your utmost, put your trust in Allaah, for He is the best of helpers, may He be glorified.

Adapted from Jaami’ Ahkaam al-Nisaa’ by Shaykh Mustafaa al-‘Adawi.


Istikhaarah prayer is a Sunnah which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) prescribed for anyone who wants to do an action but is hesitant about it. Discussion of Istikhaarah prayer covers eight points: 

1-     Definition
2-     Ruling
3-     The wisdom behind prescribing it
4-     Reasons for it
5-     When Istikhaarah should be started
6-     Consulting people before praying istikhaarah
7-     What should be recited in istikhaarah
8-     When should the du’aa’ be recited? 

1 – Definition 

Istikhaarah in Arabic means seeking guidance to make a decision concerning something. It is said in Arabic Istakhir Allaaha yakhir laka (Seek guidance from Allaah and He will guide you (to the right decision)). In sharee’ah terminology, Istikhaarah means seeking guidance (to the right decision), i.e., seeking guidance as to what Allaah knows is the best and most appropriate choice, by means of prayer or the du’aa’ narrated concerning Istikhaarah. 

2 – Ruling 

The scholars are unanimously agreed that Istikhaarah is Sunnah. The evidence that it is prescribed is the hadeeth narrated by al-Bukhaari from Jaabir (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: 

“The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to teach his companions to make istikhaarah in all matters, just as he used to teach them soorahs from the Qur’aan. 

He said: ‘If any one of you is deliberating about a decision he has to make, then let him pray two rak’ahs of non-obligatory prayer, then say: 

Allaahumma inni astakheeruka bi ‘ilmika wa astaqdiruka bi qudratika wa as’aluka min fadlika, fa innaka taqdiru wa laa aqdir, wa ta’lamu wa laa a’lam, wa anta ‘allaam al-ghuyoob. Allaahumma fa in kunta ta’lamu haadha’l-amra (then the matter should be mentioned by name) khayran li fi ‘aajil amri wa aajilihi (or: fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa ‘aaqibati amri) faqdurhu li wa yassirhu li thumma baarik li fihi. Allaahumma wa in kunta ta’lamu annahu sharrun li fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa ‘aaqibati amri (or: fi ‘aajili amri wa aajilihi) fasrifni ‘anhu [wasrafhu ‘anni] waqdur li al-khayr haythu kaana thumma radini bihi

(O Allaah, I seek Your guidance [in making a choice] by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power, I have none. And You know, I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things. O Allaah, if in Your knowledge, this matter (then it should be mentioned by name) is good for me both in this world and in the Hereafter (or: in my religion, my livelihood and my affairs), then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge it is bad for me and for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs (or: for me both in this world and the next), then turn me away from it, [and turn it away from me], and ordain for me the good wherever it may be and make me pleased with it).” 

Narrated by al-Bukhaari in several places in his Saheeh (1166). 

3 – The wisdom behind prescribing it: 

The reason why Istikhaarah is prescribed is that it is submission to the command of Allaah and a practical demonstration that one has no power and no strength of one’s own. It means turning to Allaah and seeking to combine the goodness of this world and of the Hereafter. In order to achieve that, one has to knock at the door of the King, Allaah, may He be glorified, and there is nothing more beneficial in this regard than salaah (prayer) and du’aa’ (supplication), because they involve venerating Allaah, praising Him and expressing one’s need for Him. Then after praying istikhaarah one should do that which one feels is best. 

4 – Reasons for it: 

In what circumstances should one pray istikhaarah? The four madhhabs are agreed that istikhaarah is prescribed in cases where a person does not know the right decision to make. In matters where it is known whether a thing is good or bad, such as acts of worship, doing good deeds, sins or evil actions, there is no need to pray istikhaarah in these cases. But if a person wants to find out the right time to do something, such as whether to do Hajj this year, because there is the possibility of encountering an enemy or some tribulation, or whether to go with a certain person or not, then he may pray istikhaarah with regard to such decisions. But there is no room for Istikhaarah when it comes to things that are obligatory, haraam or makrooh. Rather Istikhaarah has to do with things that are recommended or permissible. Istikhaarah is not ordinarily required with regard to things that are recommended, rather it should be done in cases where there is a conflict, i.e., when a person has a choice of two things and must decide which one to start with or which one not to do. With regard to permissible things, he may pray Istikhaarah as a regular matter. 

5 – When should he start praying Istikhaarah? 

The person who wants to pray Istikhaarah should have an open mind, and not have decided on a specific course of action. The phrase “If any one of you is deliberating” indicates that Istikhaarah should be prayed when one starts to think of the matter, when through the blessing of prayer and du’aa’ what is good will become clear to him, in contrast to when the idea has taken root and his resolve to do it is firm, in which case his inclination will sway him, and there is the fear that wisdom may not prevail because he is inclined to do that which he has already decided to do. It may be that which is meant by deliberation here is resolve, because a passing thought does not matter. And a person should not pray istikhaarah except when he has decided to do something but does not have a strong inclination towards it. Otherwise, if a person were to pray Istikhaarah for every thought that crosses his mind, he would never stop and he would waste all his time doing that. 

6 – Consulting others before praying istikhaarah 

Al-Nawawi said: It is mustahabb, before praying istikhaarah, to consult someone whom you knows is sincere, caring and has experience, and who is trustworthy with regard to his religious commitment and knowledge. 

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“and consult them in the affairs”

[Aal ‘Imraan 3:159]

7 – What is to be recited in Salaat al-Istikhaarah 

There are three opinions as to what should be recited in Salaat al-Istikhaarah: 

(a)     The Hanafis, Maalikis and Shaafa’is said that it is mustahabb, after reciting al-Faatihah, to recite Qul yaa ayyuha’l-kaafiroon in the first rak’ah and Qul huwa Allaahu ahad in the second.  Al-Nawawi said, explaining the reason for that: It is appropriate to recite these in prayer, to show sincerity and expressing your leaving your affairs to Allaah. They said that it is also permissible to add other verses from Qur’aan where the context refers to the idea of making a choice or decision.

(b)    Some of the Salaf said that in praying istikhaarah it is good to add, after reciting al-Faatihah, the following verses in the first rak’ah:

“And your Lord creates whatsoever He wills and chooses, no choice have they (in any matter). Glorified is Allaah, and exalted above all that they associate (as partners with Him).

And your Lord knows what their breasts conceal, and what they reveal.
And He is Allaah; Laa ilaaha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He), all praises and thanks be to Him (both) in the first (i.e. in this world) and in the last (i.e. in the Hereafter). And for Him is the Decision, and to Him shall you (all) be returned”

[al-Qasas 28:68 – interpretation of the meaning]

And the following verse in the second rak’ah:

“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error”

[al-Ahzaab 33:36 – interpretation of the meaning]

(c)    The Hanbalis and some of the fuqaha’ did not say that any particular verses are to be recited when praying Istikhaarah. 

8 – When one should pray Istikhaarah

 The Hanafis, Maalikis, Shaafa’is and Hanbalis stated that the du’aa’ should be recited immediately after the prayer. This is in accordance with what was stated in the hadeeth narrated from the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). See al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah, part 3, p. 241. 

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said in al-Fataawa al-Kubra: Part 2, p. 265 Question concerning Du’aa’ al-Istikhaarah: should this du’aa’ be recited during salaah (prayer) or after saying the salaam?  The answer is that it is permissible to recite the du’aa’ of istikhaarah before or after the salaam, whether you are praying salaat al-istikhaarah or another prayer. Reciting du’aa’ before the salaam is preferable, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to recite a lot of du’aa’ before the salaam, and the worshipper before saying the salaam still in a state of prayer, so it is better to recite the du’aa’ then.

 And Allaah knows best

Thursday, 14 July 2011

I want a Sheikh!

  • Why is it that all sisters want a Sheikh? Like.. a Sheikh with the voice of Shuraim, the khushu' of Budair, the deepness of voice of Hudhaify, who can make beautiful duas like Sudais, with the emotion of Muhaisini?!      For real!

  • Why is it that all sisters want a Sheikh with deep understanding of the very complicated areas of fiqh. Like if she asks him: What's the ruling on X or Y ; well he's straight: 'Qalaa Allaah wa Qalaa Rasuul..' [Allaah said, the Prophet said..]

  • They want a Sheikh who has knowledge of ahadiths and who could narrate the Seerah to her as her bedtime story. (I'm serious) 'So, Habibti, the Battle of Tabuk happened and the troops got ready.. hbiba, wake up I'm not finished.. ZzzZz'..                             Beautiful!

  • Why is it that all sisters want a Sheikh who will softly -I said softly- sprinkle droplets of water on her gentle little face to wake her up for Qiyaam-ul Layl every evening? Not only that, but since he's a hafiz.. well he can read the nice long surahs of the Glorious Qur'an with a soothing recitation that humbles the nafs to the max.      Awesome right?

  • Why is it that all sisters want a Sheikh who also has a good profession [£ + $ = kerching!!!] and who can provides well for her. They want a Sheikh who's up-to-date with the latest technologies and can text whilst driving single-handedly and with his elbow on the window side.    You know what I mean!

  • Why is it that all sisters want a Sheikh who attends all 5 prayers in the masjid (YES! Even the Fajr salaah), looking boom in his Khamis with a miswaak in the mouth and reciting the adkaar when going to and from the masjid.            Mashallaah!

  • Why is it that all sisters want a Sheikh who can sometimes surprise her at the most unexpected of times and not just bring flowers at home. Something like: 'Here's your tickets for Hajj my dear'      How romantic!

  • Why is it that all sisters want a Sheikh who is fluent in 'arabic and jungles between the 'Na'am', 'Ya3ni, Ya3ni' and 'Hayakallaah wa Barakallaah Feekum wa Jazakumullaah Kheiran Kathiran'     Ya3ni The language is important!

  • Why is it that all sisters want a Sheikh who is respectful, honest, kind-hearted, romantic, humble, generous, patient ect..ect.. I'm afraid the list is very Long indeed.

Because, we dream too much :-p       *Wakey wakey*       Such an individual probably does Not exist and even if he does, then he's probably somewhere faaaar! So, let's not make our expectations high especially when you, yourself are struggling with the minimum. There's nothing wrong in having minimum expectations, but please nothing like what I've mentioned above because it's just fairyland. I know, we all wish it was true.. I know! In Jannaah bi-ithnilaah if we make it we'll have all that and much more!

PS: When I'm saying 'Sheikh' I do not mean it in the literal meaning of the word which means: Old man but in the religious sense: someone knowleageable


Roadtrip to Zawajland

Wednesday, 13 July 2011

Srebrenica Massacre 11/07/95 - A genocide the UN turned away from

I had never even heard about Srebrenica until  I came across the information on Muslim Defence League's facebook page. How could there have been a massacre so recent and yet no one know's about it or learns about it. Srebrenica- never forget. Read on to find out the details of this horrific event that took place while the United Nations looked on.


In the Bosnian silver-mining town of Srebrenica in July 1995, one of the most notorious modern acts of gendercide took place. While the international community and U.N. peacekeepers looked on, Serb forces separated civilian men from women and killed thousands of men en masse, or hunted them down in the forests.

The Massacre

In June 1995, Bosnian Serb forces, pushing for a resolution to the ethnic "anomaly" of the Muslim enclaves, closed their noose around Srebrenica and the other "safe areas." In Srebrenica, mass panic took hold of the civilian population.

Women and children gathered at the U.N. base of Potocari, together with about 1,700 men,while most of the "battle-age" males -- mostly unarmed non-combatants -- took to the hills in a desperate attempt to flee to Muslim-held territory to the west. At Potocari, Dutch troops meekly allowed the Serbs access to the camps and the refugees they held.

Then, the following day -- July 11 -- some 1700 men, disproportionately the elderly and infirm, were separated from women and children. The peacekeepers "stood inches away from the Serb soldiers who were separating the Muslim men, one by one, from their families" (Sudetic,Blood and Vengeance, p. 306). At Serb command, the Dutch drew up a registry of 242 Bosnian men remaining in the camp, again mostly elderly and infirm. Then they handed the men over to the Serbs. Not one of the 242 men is known to have survived. The children and women were abused, with isolated exceptions, to safety in Tuzla. Men, almost without exception, were carted away to their deaths.

Satellite photo of Nova Kasaba mass graves.
Many of the men were killed in the school gymnasium in Bratunac that had already served as the site of a gendercidal massacre in the Bosnian war. Many hundreds more were massacred at a football field near Nova Kasaba, the worst killing ground of the entire five-day slaughter. Human Rights Watch recorded the testimony of one eyewitness to the gendercidal massacres at Nova Kasaba. The Serbs, he said,

picked out Muslims whom they either knew about or knew, interrogated them and made them dig pits. ...During our first day, the Cetniks [Serbs] killed approximately 500 people [men]. They would just line them up and shoot them into the pits. The approximately one hundred guys whom they interrogated and who had dug the mass graves then had to fill them in. At the end of the day, they were ordered to dig a pit for themselves and line up in front of it. ... [T]hey were shot into the mass grave. ... At dawn, ... [a] bulldozer arrived and dug up a pit ..., and buried about 400 men alive. The men were encircled by Cetniks: whoever tried to escape was shot." (Quoted in Mark Danner, "The Killing Fields of Bosnia", New York Review of Books, September 24 1998.)

A great many of the men who had sought to flee through the hills to Tuzla were doomed as well. The Bosnian Serb commander, Gen. Radivoj Krstic, in a radio transmission intercepted by western eavesdroppers, told his forces: "You must kill everyone. We don't need anyone alive." (Mark Danner, "Bosnia: The Great Betrayal", New York Review of Books, March 26 1998.) Serb forces took special pleasure in isolating trees where men had sought to hide, and riddling them with shrapnel from anti-aircraft guns.

Trapped in the hills under Serb bombardment, sleepless and thirst-maddened, men succumbed to hallucinations, paranoia, and despair. "The psyches of the men ruptured. Muslims mistook other Muslims for infiltrators. They threw hand grenades and fired their automatics at one another. ... Men shot themselves hoping the Serbs would show the wounded mercy" (Sudetic, Blood and Vengeance, p. 301). Many committed suicide. Thousands finally surrendered to Serb troops along the "Ring of Iron," who lured them with the sight of captured UN vehicles and promises of safe passage. All of those captured were taken to nearby fields and warehouses, executed, and buried in mass graves.

Mass graves found.
Summarizing the catastrophe in 1997, David Rohde -- who as a journalist with the Christian Science Monitor won a Pulitzer Prize for uncovering the first mass graves around Srebrenica -- offered a blistering critique of the moral lapse on the part of the "safe area's" alleged guardians: "The international community partially disarmed thousands of men, promised them they would be safeguarded and then delivered them to their sworn enemies. Srebrenica was not simply a case of the international community standing by as a far-off atrocity was committed. The actions of the international community encouraged, aided, and emboldened the executioners. ... The fall of Srebrenica did not have to happen. There is no need for thousands of skeletons to be strewn across eastern Bosnia. There is no need for thousands of Muslim children to be raised on stories of their fathers, grandfathers, uncles and brothers slaughtered by Serbs." (Rohde,Endgame, pp. 351, 353.)

How many died?

The Red Cross lists 7,079 dead and missing at Srebrenica. Other estimates range as high as 8,000 or 10,000. David Rohde notes that the massacre "accounts for an astonishing percentage of the number of missing" from the brutal Balkans conflict as a whole. "Of the 18,406 Muslims, Serbs and Croats reported still missing ... as of January 1997, 7,079 are people [men] who disappeared after the fall of Srebrenica. In other words, approximately 38 percent of the war's missing are from Srebrenica." By any standard, it was one of the worst and most concentrated acts of gendercide in the post-World War II era -- and the worst massacre of any kind in Europe for fifty years.

Who is responsible?

Chuck Sudetic writes of the Srebrenica massacre that "the men who carried out the executions were reportedly under orders handed down by General [Ratko] Mladic and Radislav Krstic, a colonel in the Bosnian army who was promoted to general and named commander of the army's Drina corps by Mladic within a few days of the killings. Among the units that took part in the killings was the Tenth Commando squad, which answered directly to Mladic's headquarters ... Men from Srebrenica, Bratunac, Kravica, Milii, Visegrad, Bajina Basta, Loznica, Zvornik, and other towns also participated." (Sudetic, Blood and Vengeance, pp. 317-18.)

In 1996, the International Criminal Tribunal indicted Mladic and Krstic for crimes of humanity committed at Srebrenica. Joining them on the list of indicted war-criminals was Radovan Karadzic, leader of the self-styled "Republika Srpska" or Serb-controlled territories in Bosnia. Karadzic was intimately involved in planning the "endgame" in the Bosnian war, for which Srebrenica was to serve as a centerpiece. In July 1999, the Tribunal found that these mass murderers had been operating under "a direct chain of military command" from Belgrade and the Serbian President, Slobodan Milosevic. For the first time, the Tribunal defined the Bosnian war as "an international conflict," recognizing both Bosnian independence and Serbian aggression . As yet, however, Milosevic remains unindicted for the atrocities he directed in Bosnia.

The United Nations must shoulder a large share of responsibility for allowing the massacre to take place under the noses of its troops. In November 1999, the UN released a highly self-critical report on its performance, stating that "Through error, misjudgment and the inability to recognize the scope of evil confronting us, we failed to do our part to save the people of Srebrenica from the Serb campaign of mass murder." (See Barbara Crossette, "U.N. Details Its Failure to Stop '95 Bosnian Massacre",

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